With the popularity of smartphones，More and more bet365 horse racing odds choose to educate their children through mobile phones，This has led to the emergence of the problem of bet365 horse racing odds’ “mobile phone education”。bet365 horse racing odds’ “mobile phone parenting” seems to have shortened the communication distance between bet365 horse racing odds and children，In fact, it limits bet365 horse racing odds’ precepts and deeds to their children，Also provides an opportunity for children to escape communication with their bet365 horse racing odds。This will seriously affect the parent-child relationship and the bet365 horse racing odds’ identity，Thus damaging the family’s mental health。

　Developed from "bet365 horse racing odds dependence"

"Mobile phone dependence" is also called mobile phone addiction、Problematic mobile phone use, etc.，Usually defined as overindulgence in various activities mediated by mobile phones，Thus causing the individual to have physiological symptoms、Non-substance addiction or behavioral addiction that impairs psychological and social functions。Mobile phone dependence as an addictive behavior，It will inevitably cause a series of negative impacts on the mental health of mobile phone addicts，Mental health problems that aggravate their internalization and externalization。Researchers think，Individuals with mobile phone dependence problems usually suffer from greater life and psychological pressure，Coping and dealing with various problems in life passively，Escape from real problems through excessive use of mobile phones，Thus leading to a further decline in his mental health。Visible，bet365 horse racing odds’ dependence on mobile phones reflects their mental health problems.，And mobile phone dependence as a negative way of coping，In turn, it will further aggravate the bet365 horse racing odds’ own mental health problems，causing anxiety、Depression、Decreased sleep quality、Interpersonal relationships damaged、Decreased life satisfaction and other conditions。

The concept related to bet365 horse racing odds’ mobile phone dependency behavior is “parental bowing behavior”。The latter emphasizes the process of parent-child interaction，bet365 horse racing odds pay too much attention to their mobile phones and ignore their children’s behavior。Essentially，The behavior of bet365 horse racing odds bowing their heads is a direct negative consequence of bet365 horse racing odds’ dependence on mobile phones，There is a parallel relationship with cell phone parenting behavior。The difference between the two is，Parental bowing behavior occurs when bet365 horse racing odds are with their children，Parental mobile phone parenting behavior is the behavior of bet365 horse racing odds relying on mobile phones to verbally educate their children when they are unable to be with their children。The behavior of bet365 horse racing odds bowing their heads shows their neglect of their children，The parenting behavior of bet365 horse racing odds on mobile phones shows their concern for their children，It’s just that this kind of attention expressed through mobile phones is not a positive and effective parenting method。

bet365 horse racing odds who choose to educate their children through mobile phones can only educate their children through "words"，And this instant and short-lived way of "communicating" is like "fast food" to the human body，Seems to relieve hunger quickly，In fact, it has no nutrition，If things continue like this, it will even seriously affect physical and mental health。The way bet365 horse racing odds communicate through mobile phones seems to "get to the point" and tell their children how to behave，In fact, it is just relying on the medium of mobile phones，Escaped more responsibilities and obligations of educating children。For children，"Words" without "teaching by example" are just preaching，The educational significance and educational effect will be greatly reduced。This "fast food" parenting style cannot solve the deep-seated problems of family education，Especially when children are learning about themselves、Adjust emotions、Problems in harmonious interpersonal relationships and improving social adaptability。

　　Characteristics, causes and consequences

Compared with traditional family education，Mobile education uses mobile phones as a medium，Nature has many characteristics that are different from traditional parenting methods。First，Look on the positive side，Mobile phone parenting has shortened the time and space distance of parenting to a certain extent，Enables bet365 horse racing odds to be with their children even when they are not around，Can also provide guidance and education，Establishing an emotional connection between bet365 horse racing odds and children，Promote the harmonious development of family relationships。On the negative side，Although mobile phones can overcome the physical distance gap，But it does not mean that there is no psychological distance，Sometimes it even fails to achieve the purpose of effective communication，Not to mention achieving the expected educational effect。Secondly，Mobile phones have the characteristics of both immediacy and delay，This allows bet365 horse racing odds to communicate with their children anytime, anywhere，It can also be due to your own reasons such as emotional discomfort or fatigue，Subjectively choose not to contact the child。Obviously，This objectively also provides opportunities for bet365 horse racing odds to evade their parenting responsibilities。Also，Due to the differences in parenting responsibilities given to fathers and mothers by society and culture，Usually mothers are considered to have more parenting responsibilities，Therefore，Mobile phone parenting behavior will be affected by the gender of bet365 horse racing odds，Compared to father，Mothers may use mobile phones to educate their children more frequently。Finally，Depending on the communication form，Implementation of mobile parenting process including text messaging、Videos and other forms，Different forms of contact will also affect the final parenting effect。Compared to SMS，Video is more intimate，Can communicate more directly，But in turn, it will also show bet365 horse racing odds’ stronger intention to control their children；Compared to video，SMS is more flexible，Be able to avoid excessive emotional expression or confrontation。But no matter which form，Nothing can compare with the educational effect of personal education，As the saying goes, “Teaching by example is worse than teaching by example”。

The reason why bet365 horse racing odds’ mobile phone parenting behavior is becoming increasingly common and popular，Perhaps it has more to do with the individual factors of the bet365 horse racing odds。First，Personality characteristics。Introversion, which is closely related to interpersonal communication、Extroverted personality traits may be an important factor affecting bet365 horse racing odds’ mobile phone parenting behavior。Extroverted bet365 horse racing odds are more willing to communicate and establish emotional connections with their children，Exchange messages or video chat with your children more frequently，And provide them with verbal education。Second，Parenting pressure。Between bet365 horse racing odds and children，Not only children need help and support from their bet365 horse racing odds，bet365 horse racing odds also need their children to satisfy their needs for self-identity and belonging。Therefore，In order to meet the bet365 horse racing odds’ own needs，Relieving the multiple pressures caused by parenting responsibilities，Many times bet365 horse racing odds rely on mobile phones to educate their children out of anxiety that they cannot be with their children、Worry、Guilt and self-blame。Actually，Mobile education is more like a "placebo"，Does not essentially solve the problem，It can neither bring bet365 horse racing odds to their children，It cannot make the parent-child relationship that may have been relatively distant become closer，It is a negative way of coping with stress。Third，Life pressure。When bet365 horse racing odds are coerced by financial income or socioeconomic status in real life，Most likely to avoid problems by relying on mobile phones、Relieve stress。Mobile phone parenting is an important form of bet365 horse racing odds’ mobile phone dependence，can help bet365 horse racing odds who feel their social status has declined in real life，Deepen your identity as a parent，Thus improving one’s psychological feelings，Relieve life stress，It is a strategic coping mechanism。

Parenting with mobile phones is a product of the high-tech era，Provides a new way for the development of family education、New way。But this "fast food" style of parenting，It cannot really play an effective role in education and punishment，On the contrary, it will bring long-term adverse effects to both bet365 horse racing odds and children。For example，When bet365 horse racing odds communicate with their children through mobile phones，Can only stay at the level of language education and short-term benefits，It is difficult to accurately convey information such as emotions and body language，More likely to cause misinterpretation，Even children will regard it as their bet365 horse racing odds monitoring them，Ultimately affecting the parent-child relationship、Family function。In addition，The disadvantages of mobile phone parenting also include the mismatch in communication willingness between bet365 horse racing odds and children，Children may not want to communicate with their bet365 horse racing odds at all，If mobile phone is the only communication medium，Then the chance of escape is very high。Children’s avoidance will reduce their bet365 horse racing odds’ identity，Negative impact on bet365 horse racing odds’ mental health。Visible，The emergence of mobile phone parenting seems to have shortened the communication distance between bet365 horse racing odds and children，In fact, it will have subtle and irreversible harm to family education and the mental health of bet365 horse racing odds and children。

　　Coping and intervention strategies

The essence of family education is "teaching by words and deeds" in family life，Instead of telling your children countless times to be a good person、The principle of doing things，Not as good as bet365 horse racing odds’ example education、Practice yourself。But，If cell phone education has happened，Or there is indeed some force majeure，We can also adopt some effective interventions，Do everything possible to reduce or ease the impact of mobile phone parenting on bet365 horse racing odds、Possible negative effects on children and the entire family。

Considering social and environmental factors，bet365 horse racing odds and children are separated in two places，It is an important objective condition that bet365 horse racing odds have to educate through mobile phones，But this is not a sufficient reason for bet365 horse racing odds to choose mobile phone parenting。How to create conditions for bet365 horse racing odds to stay with their children，Provide good living conditions for children，You can also stay with your children to educate them，It is something that the entire society needs to consider。For those bet365 horse racing odds who have to go out to work，The government should also provide more protective measures，Guarantee educational resources for migrant children，Empowering bet365 horse racing odds、Conditional、Have the confidence to take your children with you，Give them better education、Guidance。

bet365 horse racing odds should learn to relieve their own parenting pressure。bet365 horse racing odds are a responsibility，Also an identity，Every parent is not only a "parent" but also themselves，Their mental health level should receive more attention。Therefore，To reduce bad cell phone parenting behaviors，bet365 horse racing odds not only need to learn to be correct、Positive、Effective parenting methods，You also need to improve your mental health。bet365 horse racing odds should participate in their children’s growth process as much as possible by teaching them by example，Set an example。When bet365 horse racing odds cannot be with their children，Don’t rely too much on mobile phones to teach children，Cannot interfere in children’s lives without restrictions，Don’t regard raising children as a burden，Maintain a positive and healthy mental state，Because the bet365 horse racing odds’ own mental health status has a subtle impact on the growth of their children。

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(The author is the chief expert of the interdisciplinary platform of bet365 horse racing odds education at Renmin University of China、Professor)